Your special someone is in recovery. You are full of hope and dreams. Yet you wonder, "Is this real?" How do you find out? Is there a way to test the fruit of repentance?
There is four things that go along with recovery. Anyone in recovery who is doing the stuff should demonstrate these things. You should be able to see it without them even telling you.
The person must:
...Be able to explain their issues (what caused them to become who they became)
...Own it (no longer blame anyone or anything for what they have done)(accept responsibility)
...Have a plan of recovery (this plan better be a good one that lots have recovered with before)
...Understand that you don't have to trust them (you get to choose that...coercion must stop)
Hint: don't tell them you are looking for these things. Don't give them the list! These things come naturally from a repentant heart. If they are in recovery, they can't help but do these things!
I was a drunk and drug addict, not anymore thanks to The Lord Jesus and the new birth.
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